1:1 coaching for neurodivergent women in perimenopause
You’ve noticed that what used to work has stopped, and you can’t work out whether to blame your hormones, your brain, or yourself. (It’s usually all three, interacting.)
How it works
Start with a free discovery call
30 minutes online. You tell me what’s going on, I tell you how the coaching works, and we both work out whether it’s the right fit. No pressure. No commitment.
Map where you are
The first paid session is a 90-minute mapping session. We look at four areas: your lifestyle and capacity, how your neurodivergence is showing up right now, what perimenopause is doing specifically for you, and your relationship with yourself at this point. Most women find this session useful in itself. It gives me the context I need, and it tends to give you some early clarity on what’s actually going on.
Work through what comes next
A minimum of six fortnightly coaching sessions, shaped by the map we built together. We don’t follow a fixed programme. We work on what’s actually happening, which changes session to session.
The problem this addresses
Your brain’s been working harder than anyone knew
You’ve been running AuDHD in a world that wasn’t built for it, for a very long time. The executive function that used to get you through demanding days is less reliable than it was. Your sensory thresholds are lower. You’re recovering more slowly. Nothing was ever wrong with your brain.
Perimenopause changed the calculation
Estrogen helps regulate dopamine and serotonin. As it falls and fluctuates through perimenopause, many women find their ADHD traits get harder to manage and their sensory sensitivities intensify.
Most support misses this intersection entirely
Support in the perimenopause space is designed for a neurotypical experience. Support in the ADHD and autism space is designed for people not dealing with hormonal shifts. Without a clear picture of how perimenopause and AuDHD are interacting for you specifically, it’s hard to know which problem you’re working on.
You’re at an intersection that most practitioners don’t cover. This coaching does.
Four areas, looked at together.
The first session maps four areas, not to work through them in sequence, but to make sure we’re addressing the right thing.
Lifestyle & capacity
What your current energy budget actually looks like: sleep, nutrition, movement, sensory load, social demands. And where there’s room to build real capacity rather than just pushing through.
Your neurodivergence right now
How autism and ADHD traits are showing up for you at this point in your life. What’s getting harder, what’s working, and what you’ve been compensating for so long you’ve stopped noticing.
How hormones are affecting you
Estrogen helps regulate dopamine and serotonin. As it falls and fluctuates through perimenopause, many women find their ADHD traits get harder to manage and their sensory sensitivities intensify.
Your relationship with yourself
Late diagnosis often means decades of misunderstanding yourself. This area is about building a clearer, kinder, more accurate picture of who you are, and what you need.
What this tends to lead to
The goal is an accurate picture of what’s happening, not a fixed version of you.
By the end of the coaching, you can usually name what’s driving the hard days and work with it, instead of one undifferentiated sense that something’s wrong with you.
You have language to use with your GP, your employer, your partner, or your occupational health team.
You’ve stopped measuring yourself against a version of yourself that existed under completely different conditions.
More specifically:
You make fewer last-minute cancellations because you know your actual capacity in advance.
You catch the warning signs of a crash earlier, because you understand why they happen.
You stop apologising for what your brain and body need, because you finally understand what those needs are and why they’re there.
You still have AuDHD. You’re still in perimenopause. But you get to the end of the week with something left now.
1 mapping session + 6 fortnightly coaching sessions
Access to Work funding may cover part or all of the cost. If you’re currently employed and receiving an Access to Work grant, get in touch and we can work out whether this applies to you.
The Emergence Framework
Most of the women I work with are somewhere in a pattern I see often. I’ve named it the Emergence Framework. It maps the stages neurodivergent women tend to move through during perimenopause and late diagnosis: functional masking, the point where the mask starts to slip, making sense of what’s happened, and what comes after.
It’s a map, not a prescription. Not everyone moves through these in order. But most people recognise where they are in it.
What my clients say
I was deep in AuDHD burnout and struggling to function. Jess helped me see we had quite a bit to cover before jumping straight into how I’d get back to work. I understand pacing my energy now and I’m really benefiting from it. My energy window used to be about two hours; anything more would wipe me out. I recently went to a five-hour event and knew to rest after, which sustained my energy. Huge progress in just a few months.
Lorraine
Is this right for you?
This coaching is for neurodivergent women (AuDHD, autistic, or ADHD) who are in perimenopause and starting to notice that the strategies they’ve relied on are no longer working. You might be newly diagnosed, in the middle of an assessment, or self-identifying. You don’t need a formal diagnosis.
If you’re burned out and still masking through it, or if you can’t tell what’s hormones and what’s always been there, this is built for that.
If you’re not sure whether it’s the right fit, book a free 30-minute discovery call. We can work that out together.
If you’re not ready for a call yet, the free workbook is a good first step. It covers why perimenopause and AuDHD interact the way they do, and includes two exercises to help you name what’s changed and what it’s costing you.